I’m now twenty two weeks pregnant with my third child.
This pregnancy is SO much more enjoyable, easier and relaxed than my first two.
Thinking back to when I fell pregnant with Ava over six years ago – the very beginning of the pregnancy was full of uncertainty and anxiety.
Without going into a long story, it took a few very long, anxious weeks to confirm I had a viable pregnancy.
I got very bad skin (more on this in a blog post to come).
Felt awful with headaches, nausea and was extremely tired.
Was hospitalised at 12 weeks with a very painful and rare pregnancy side effect which saw me housebound for a week.
My mum would always tell me ‘ Your body is not your own when you’re pregnant’ and it’s so true.
I felt like so many things were happening to my body that were out of my control.
Second time around when I was pregnant with Chloe, Ava was almost two and not sleeping.
She would wake up several times during the night.
I had so much adrenalin in my body from sleep deprivation I found it hard to fall asleep and stay asleep.
Early in my second pregnancy I put my back out, was in excruciating pain and couldn’t walk for a day.
My hubby had to call an emergency chiro to our house.
It took a few weeks of chiro and physio to recover.
I had very low iron and was told to eat more red meat. I insisted on an iron infusion and felt SO much better for it!
Third time around, despite having nausea and headaches and being tired in my first trimester, I am now feeling my best yet!
I think there are a couple of factors – I definitely feel more in control, and better able to manage my pregnancy.
Fitness + Wellness
When I fell pregnant last year, I was the fittest, strongest and lightest I’ve ever been in my life. It definitely helps as pregnancy, birth and taking care of a baby is SUCH a physical role. If you are fit and strong, it can prevent so many issues.
21 weeks pregnant in Mummactiv
If you haven’t been very active and are now pregnant – start doing some gentle exercise.
Yoga. Pilates. Swimming. Walking. Something! Your body will thank you for it.
I am finally getting so much more sleep, it makes SUCH a big difference. Once my girls go to bed – I tidy my house, pop the dishwasher on and get into bed. I’m getting around 8 hours sleep a night.
If you’re not sleeping for whatever reason – make it a priority to sort it out.
I waited until Ava was two and half to get a sleep consultant in and she changed our lives – I don’t know why I waited so long. You can try Ngala, Tizzy Hall’s ‘Save Our Sleep‘ (I’ll be using this once our new baby is born in July), The Sleep Mama and if you live in Perth and need an amazing sleep consultant – email me.
If you have trouble falling asleep, try magnesium tablets (I take Mygen maternity supplements which have magnesium in them), Super Elixir tea or a mild over the counter sleeping tablet.
I also set the mood for bed time in our house by playing relaxing music and have a bath with an amazing Weleda Lavender Milk Bath, the fragrance is so relaxing and soothing.
Of course I know things aren’t always that simple – I still sometimes wake up around 2 or 3am and can’t get back to sleep, but on the whole am sleeping SO much better this pregnancy.
I have been crazy hungry again this pregnancy. During my first pregnancy I would wake up during the night with hunger pains and have an Up and Go (which I thought was pretty healthy at the time!).
Little did I know that it has loads of sugar / corn syrup / fructose etc in it. I gained over 20 kg’s with both my pregnancies and didn’t feel great at all.
It took me a long time to feel like ‘me’ again and my self confidence really suffered.
In fact – if I am brutally honest with you, I never felt so ugly or uncomfortable in my own skin in my entire life.
(It doesn’t help that people feel SO entitled to comment on your appearance when you’re pregnant. ‘You’re very big for X months, aren’t you?’ or ‘Sure you’re not having twins?’).
This time around I am so much more mindful when it comes to my diet.
I start each day with a green smoothie, have been filling up on lots of healthy protein like scrambled turmeric egg wraps, salad bowls, fruit and yoghurt.
I also just started having Teresa Cutter’s Organic Pea Protein Chocolate + Maca Powder which is PERFECT for my afternoon chocolate cravings! (There are lots of protein powders which are NOT suitable for pregnancy – I did loads of research before deciding this one was the best on the market for pregnancy).
That’s not to say I don’t indulge in my cravings – I have a couple of squares of dark chocolate every night (and some nights a Caramello Koala!).
I am still following my 5 and 2 approach – Monday to Friday I am mindful of eating well, and on the weekends I’ll be a bit more relaxed. (You can read my post from last year ‘How I Keep on Track with Health and Wellness‘, and ‘How I Lost 5 Kilos‘ a few years back).
Low iron can make you feel SO awful, but it’s often overlooked as a cause of feeling unwell / rundown / exhausted. I was told to eat more red meat and take an iron supplement, but the thing is – some people just don’t store iron very well. I’m one of them. I insisted on an iron infusion when I was pregnant with Chloe and felt SO much better for it. I also insisted on having one this pregnancy (you just can’t have it during your first trimester, and you have to go to a special facility to have it done).
If you have low iron – definitely look into having an infusion, along with iron rich foods and the best supplements for you.
Make Friends with your Local Pharmacist
I found out I was pregnant very early on this time around, when I was about 5 weeks pregnant. We were heading to Hawaii, and based on my previous pregnancies (and how I was feeling at the time) I asked my doctor to prescribe me anti nausea medication. It came in SO handy when we were travelling and I felt so unwell. At my local pharmacy there is also a naturopath who has been really helpful with giving me the best iron supplements and health advice. Don’t suffer in silence! There’s lots of perfectly safe medication you can take during pregnancy – don’t be afraid to ask your GP, Pharmacist or Naturopath.
Make Life Easy For Yourself
When Ava was two years old, I started sending her to a beautiful little daycare one day a week.
Some people asked why I was doing this when I was a stay at home mum, and my answer was to have one day where I could go to appointments, get jobs done or catch up with friends or family.
(After all, people who work a full time job get the weekends off. Motherhood is a 24/7 job!).
It was one of the best decisions I’ve made as a mum.
I also have a night off cooking every Friday. I’ll take the girls for spaghetti or fish and chips or we’ll get take away sushi.
Some nights we’ll pack our dinner up and have a picnic. The girls will run off their extra energy, we’ll all get some fresh air and spend time together and come home relaxed and happy.
I have Mumma friends who have regular babysitters, cleaners, Au Pairs and Nanny’s and are SO much happier for having help.
Even if you go to your parents for dinner one night a week, or have a family member babysit on a regular basis so you can get to a gym class or have your hair done.
It’s SO important for your mental health and sense of wellbeing to have time for self care.
Time that is just for YOU.
It recharges and re-energises you so you’re ready to take on mum life again!
Embrace and Enjoy!
Each pregnancy is different.
This time around, I’m choosing to embrace and enjoy it and make the most of it – because I know how quickly it will be over, and then the entire experience will just be a memory.
I am doing as much as I can in the mornings when I feel at my best, and in the afternoons try to take it easy (well, as much as I can with a very busy 6 and 3 year old!).
If you are pregnant – sending you lots of love.
I hope you are feeling well and taking care of yourself.
This is a beautiful and magical time in your life.
An experience you will never get to have again – both the good and the bad!
Loads of love,
Amy x x x x
How is your pregnancy going?
What are you loving / finding challenging?48