A few weeks ago I was Whats App’ing my cousin who lives in Nashville.
I couldn’t sleep, and she was asking me why I was up so early (it was 3am).
I said it happens sometimes. I wake up at some crazy hour and can’t get back to sleep.
She told me she loved following my adventures with the girls on Instagram and that I was doing a great job as a mum and wife.
I said thank you; some days I don’t think I’m doing a particularly good job, but I try my best.
She told me I was doing a wonderful job and not to waste time worrying or doubting. (How good are the encouragers in life?).
A few years back I wrote a post about Mumma guilt – since then I’ve become much better at allowing myself time out.
Whether it’s Pilates, having my hair or nails done or a catch up with friends – I make it happen and I’m SO much happier for it. (Even though I’ve been called self indulgent and superficial for it!).
Whenever I chat with friends it seems we all suffer from guilt in some way.
Friends who work worry they aren’t spending enough time with their kids or getting the work / life balance right.
Stay at home mums feel guilty about not working or about spending money on themselves.
New mums feel bad about not losing their baby weight; while juggling sleepless nights and crazy hormones.
Friends who work hard and are doing well in their chosen careers are guilty about their success and everything that comes with it, and feel they have to play it down.
I’m very task orientated and often feel guilty about all the things I still haven’t managed to get done by the end of the day.
The common theme among all these women I know is they are doing their very best.
They are wonderful friends, hard workers, loving mothers and devoted partners and wives.
Maybe we should give ourselves more credit for all the things we are doing, and stop worrying so much.
If you’re doing your best, it’s more than enough.
A x x x x
What do you feel guilty about?
Who are the encouragers in your life?0