It’s a question I get asked a lot. How do you go with your hubby being away so often?
The short and sweet answer is; it’s just our kind of normal. During football season, my hubby heads interstate on the weekend for his AFL commentary work with Channel 7. Just like thousands of FIFO families all over Australia and the world, it’s the way life is.
For the most part, my girls and I keep busy catching up with friends and family, trips to the park and local farmers market and have lots of fun together until it’s time for Daddy to come home.
We have gorgeous weekends like this one where the sun is shining. We manage to get some sleep, the girls are happy and we go to the park for picnics. Ava says things like ‘Thanks so much for the picnic mum, I really appreciate it.’ (Heart explosion!).
Then there are weekends that aren’t so much fun.
Two weekends ago we had a massive water leak / flood at our place. Until late into the evening we had a plumber, maintenance men and a Water Corp truck parked outside our home. They were making loads of noise trying to fix the problem and Ava kept waking up crying because of it, which would then wake Chloe up.
Last weekend Chloe cut her lip open in the morning. Later in the day when I was doing the grocery shopping, Ava jumped onto the side of the trolley which Chloe was sitting in. The trolley crashed sideways with both my girls smacking their heads hard on the supermarket floor.
I know I’m not alone with my part time solo parenting gig, many friends and family have partners who work away, often for weeks at a time and it can be tough. Really tough.
Then there are some people whose partners often work late nights and weekends, so even though they are in the same city – they feel like part time solo parents too.
I’ve had weekends where I haven’t slept and we’ve all been sick and the only adult contact I’ve had is with the local friendly Pharmacist.
Times when I realise I don’t have enough nappies / formula / Panadol to get me through the night , and it’s bed time and I have to do a mad dash to the shops with two tired poppets in tow.
There’s always an upside – I’ve become quite the Mrs Fixit, learning to to repair the dishwasher, air conditioner, electrical faults, broken blinds and loads more.
There’s something about having to draw on all your strength and resources which makes you realise you’re tougher than you think.
Massive respect to full time solo parents, I think about you all the time.
Parenting is both my greatest challenge and biggest joy, so for those of you braving it all on your own ALL the time, I think you’re amazing!
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