Every now and then I’ll buy myself a magazine. Often I’ll find one or two interesting stories, some beautiful images, maybe a recipe or two – and that will be it.
Yesterday I picked up the latest copy of marie claire and I’m so glad I did.
This is why.
‘She’s perfect. Until we teach her otherwise.’
‘The average woman learns to like her body at 45, according to a recent study. So marie claire invited some of the country’s top advertising agencies to create an ad that would convince women to love their bodies now, not later’ marie claire
‘Mummy, I want to be just like you.’
Just yesterday I read a brilliant post by one of my all time favourite bloggers Mrs Woog called ‘Start with a Full Tank‘. It’s all about sending our children out into the world with a full tank of confidence.
My very talented friend Kelly Exeter would call this synchronicity.
I’ve been thinking a lot about self image and self confidence recently. Mainly because each time I’ve had a baby it’s taken me so long to get back to feeling my best. And that’s made me feel a bit crap. Very crap actually. Especially when social media is filled with bums and boobs and long legs and tiny shorts and flat stomachs….. *big sigh* …… you get the jist.
There is such a fixation on post baby bodies and getting back into shape as quickly as possible once your baby is delivered. You can’t go to a supermarket checkout without seeing yet another new celebrity mum on the cover of a magazine looking all fabulous and perky in a tiny bikini cradling an equally tiny baby. Paula Joye wrote a very insightful article ‘The Truth About Post Baby Weight-Loss Pictures‘ talking about why this is so harmful to new mums.
Just when we need to feel at our most strong and capable in order to care for our babies, we are often at our most sleep deprived, hormonal and vulnerable.
How many times have I told myself to stop being silly thinking about how I looked. That I could probably have learnt another language or two in the time I have worried about having a few extra kilos or puffy eyes or blotchy skin.
The truth is, my body has grown and given birth to two beautiful and healthy girls. It’s fed and nourished them, often on very little sleep. I owe my body a great deal of gratitude.
Bravo Busy Phillips. Bravo.
marie claire have launched a ‘Why wait?’ campaign, inviting women to start liking their body RIGHT NOW.
I’m all in.
I want my beautiful daughters to grow up having a strong sense of self worth and confidence. Not based on how they look, but because they’re kind and helpful. Because they work hard and are funny, interesting, driven, thoughtful, mindful, smart and grateful. Because they are contributing members of society. Because they respect their bodies and take pride in how they look, but don’t obsess over it. I want them to be empowered.
If you’re tired of not having much love for your body, whether it’s your nose, face, hair, legs, bum, boobs, tummy, freckles – now is the time to start liking what you’ve got.
Because life is really short, I’m going to choose to be happy with what I’ve got starting right now.
A x x x
Have you struggled with self confidence and self image too?
What would you do with the time spent worrying about how you look?
Do you think the whole post baby body thing is ridiculous too?0