It’s been just over seven weeks since we welcomed our sweet Chloe bear into the world and we’ve slowly been adjusting to life with two little ones. It’s been a beautiful blur – lots and lots of feeding, changing, washing, cuddling, laughing, more washing, very little sleep, a few tears and tantrums and a whole lot of love.
Chloe was just four days old when my hubby went away for the weekend for work. It was a little bit daunting being home alone with a newborn and effervescent Ava, but we muddled through somehow. Ava instantly loved Chloe and is a very enthusiastic and helpful big sister, always hugging Chloe, singing to her ‘(Truly Scrumpshish!’) showing her things ‘Look Chloe – look!’ and she is an amazing little helper for me – getting things like wipes, nappies and blankets. It’s been so beautiful watching Ava fall in love with Chloe as much as we have. When I took the photo above Ava told me ‘Ava and Chloe – best friends’. Oh how I wish for exactly that. For them to be the best of friends and to always look after and love each other.
When I was pregnant with Chloe lots of people told us about how much more challenging life would be with two little ones, so we were prepared for it to be tricky. I have to say that so far, yes – I’ve definitely had moments where both girls have been upset and needed me and it’s been stressful and I’ve been pushed to my limits – but there have also been so many more precious and beautiful moments that totally outweigh the tricky ones.
Chloe is a very sweet and content little bubba, in fact – I wonder why I thought having a newborn the first time around was so much work? For the most part – as long as she has her milk and cuddles, she’s happy! She has slept through busy days, been popped in and out of the car without even stirring, and has even come along to a Pilates class with me, sleeping the whole time – I don’t remember being able to do that first time around. I’m not sure whether it’s because I’m a more relaxed and confident Mumma or because Chloe’s a more chilled out bubba. Maybe it’s a bit of both.
Time seems to have sped right up. Almost as soon as I’ve finished feeding Chloe, Ava wants me to dance with her, get her a drink or snack and in between I’m squeezing in the usual household tasks. Then it’s time to feed Chloe again. Before I know it, dinner time has come around again and with it ‘Happy Hour/s’ – which is that crazy time between 4-7pm where the girls are tired and out of sorts (and so is Mumma!) and a meal has to be prepared – arrggghhhh!! Some afternoons I’ve even resorted to popping them both in the pram (AKA ‘The Winnebago’) and giving it a little push in between chopping vegetables. For some reason that keeps the girls calm long enough for me to get some kind of meal on the table.
Sleep deprivation has well and truly kicked in. If we have a good night, I’m only up twice with Chloe and once with Ava. If we have a bad night, I’m up at around 1am and 4am feeding Chloe and then Ava wakes up around 5am – so my day starts at 4 in the morning. It leaves me feeling very dithery, exhausted and indecisive which I can’t stand!
Leaving the house on time can often be stressful with two little ones. Some mornings are just so crazy and even as organised as I think I am packing bags and laying clothes out the night before, I still often run late. One of the first mornings we had to be somewhere bright and early, Ava spilt water all over her outfit and I had to convince her to change out of it as she was determined to still wear it. Someone needs to run a course on negotiating with a 2.5 year old!
With all that said, I am LOVING being a mum of two beautiful, bright little girls – they reward me with so many precious moments every day. Just yesterday Ava held my hand and sang her version of ‘Truly Scrumpshish’ (from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang) to me, and Chloe has started smiling, gurgling and gazing at me adoringly and letting me cuddle her as much as I want. If only I could freeze time!
A x x x
How did you manage when your second little one arrived?
Did you have a multiple birth? How on earth did you manage?!!
Do you have any special tips and tricks for ‘Happy Hour’?0