For most of us, we only ever want people to see us in our best light, especially when it comes to social media. We post photos in our most fun and colourful outfits, smiling happily at the camera, our homes looking tidy and organised, pictures of delicious home baked cakes, shots from exotic holiday destinations. I know because I’m guilty of this. Someone recently asked me how Ava always looked so composed in photos, and if she still had her daytime nap. The truth is, a lot of the time she hates having her photo taken AND up until recently we’d been having massive sleep issues. Ava dropped her afternoon naps a few months back and I’ve been at a loss to know what to do every afternoon when she’s an exhausted and overwhelmed little poppet, and I’m a just as exhausted, heavily pregnant Mumma.
No photos Mumma!
I’ve never captured the moments when Ava has had a temper tantrum in the middle of a shopping centre, the time she ran out of a shop in just her nappy (she’d taken her shoes off and I was attempting to try a dress on her), the mornings she doesn’t want me to dress her or do her hair and I have to chase her around the house, or when she decides that 3am is a good time to wake up.
For me, social media is a happy escape – I love seeing beautiful images of what people are getting up to in their day. I find it inspiring and it’s a blissful relief from the daily grind. I’ve never posted images of me emptying the dishwasher for the third time in one morning, changing yet another nappy, tackling an always full washing and ironing basket, or cleaning yoghurt up from the floor. Why not? Because it’s not very interesting or fun.
The danger of this is it can sometimes leave us feeling like our own lives aren’t good enough. That we’re not fun enough, healthy enough, pretty enough, fit enough, crafty enough, clever enough, accomplished enough. It goes on and on and on.
I’ve recently read a couple of amazing posts about this very topic, including ‘Their Life Seems So Perfect‘ by Yellow Dandy, ‘Parenting is F*ing Hard Work‘ by WA Mumma and ‘Words on Wednesday‘ by Em for Milla which included this quote which really struck a chord with me.
I’ve certainly had days recently where I’ve had to remind myself of this, especially after months of waking up in an exhausted fog with one sleepless child only to see people on Instagram with a couple of kids looking all fresh and fabulous, building cubby houses and making croquembouches. (Well, slight exaggeration – but you know what I mean).
So in the spirit of keeping it real, here of some of my less than glamorous behind the scenes moments.
My always full ironing basket – I hate ironing!
The never ending dishwasher filling and emptying
My massive cake fail for Ava’s 2nd birthday
The truth is no ones life is perfect and we all have stuff going on. From now on, I’m going to try my best to keep it real and include photos of my less than fabulous moments. The baking fails, the lazy dinners and the overflowing ironing basket. Because that’s real life. And you know what? It’s what makes the highlight reel moments so amazing.
Here’s to keeping it real lovelies!
A x x x x x
Have you ever felt disappointed in your own life because of social media?
What are some of your less than favourite behind the scenes moments?